Andrew Peterson is probably my favorite songwriter of all time. It was easy to choose his song “Dancing in the Minefields” as a follow up from yesterday’s post on marriage. This song reminds me of something my dear friend Anne used to say: “It’s often the hardest things that are the best things.” That is certainly true of my marriage.
Here’s Andrew’s description of the song:
In December of 2009 my wife and I celebrated fifteen years of marriage. A few days later, we got in a silly argument and I wrote this song after she went to bed. Marriage, see, was God’s idea. It’s one of the most potent metaphors in all of Scripture for the way God loves us and the way we’re to let ourselves be loved by him. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy. To the contrary, it’s fraught with peril. Any good marriage involves a thousand deaths to self—the good news is, in Christ that marriage involves at least as many resurrections. We lay our lives down and enter this perilous dance with another human being who has done the same. Why should we expect to emerge unscathed?
In another interview about this song, Andrew said:
Marriage is a perilous journey. If it hasn’t been yet, get ready because it will get hard. It is a crucible, and an important lesson to learn how to lay down our lives for another person. Just because it is hard doesn’t mean it isn’t good. Some young people have a tendency to think marriage is a cake walk. They’ll say, “Other people fight, we don’t fight.” You need to know that if you are in an intimate relationship with someone there will be arguments. There will be tension. Mountains are moving in your soul and you’ll have scars. That’s part of God’s design and that makes marriage beautiful.
Find “Dancing in the Minefields” Lyrics here.